What is the name of your 90-Day program?
90-Days to Loving People In and Toxic People Out Forever™
What is the name of the system you use to help your mentees get to the result of believing in love again?
Boundaries for Boundless Love™
How long have you been doing what you do, and how did you become the "I Believe in Love Again" coach?
To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a defining moment, and a resulting “compelling story”, that brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you on exactly what to do to have powerful boundaries to keep loving people in and toxic people out ONCE AND FOR ALL. That defining moment in my life happened in 2017.
At this time, I gave my life to Jesus, which was a cause for huge celebration. However, many things in my life were worse than ever. I was completely drained from leaving my 10th toxic boyfriend, emotionally and financially.
He was a 40-year-old man living with his mom. I gave him all my money (actually, my mother’s money), supporting him with food, his gas, his truck insurance, and paying for all our dates. He was another narcissist, happy to drain every last ounce of energy from me.
How did I get with yet another boyfriend like this? I had read countless books and studied profusely on the topics of codependency, narcissism, love addiction, attachment styles, dating and attraction, healing from trauma. How did I miss the signs again? Embarrassed and broken, I found myself nearly homeless again at age 28, staying with hospitable friends.
A couple of years before finding myself homeless, I walked in on my sweet mother attempting suicide before my very eyes. She was rushed into ICU and died a few days later from her organs failing. To my surprise, she had left me a $12,000 inheritance. She never made much money as a hairdresser, and so I know she worked hard and barely scraped by to save this money for me.
But every penny of what she left me was gone. GONE, GONE, GONE. I had given all her money away to my undeserving boyfriends - what a way to dishonor her. This was the defining moment in my life that I shall NEVER EVER have poor boundaries again. I never wanted to get hurt by a man again. I never wanted to get hurt by people again. And I never wanted to get hurt financially ever again. I wanted to have a life FULL OF LOVE from God, family, friends, and my future husband. I was going to do WHATEVER IT TOOK to get this and nothing was going to stop me.
I became ENTIRELY OBSESSED with healing from my codependent and love addiction patterns, which I knew stemmed from my past of being molested and raped for 8 years by my stepfather (a serial pedophile) when I was a child. I was DETERMINED to stop my self-sabotaging behaviors and install new ones that would attract EXTRAORDINARY LOVE into my life, and that I did, with the help of God!
I interviewed over 50 therapists in Northern California, tested some out in person, and fired all of them, minus one. I kept the amazing Christian brainspotting therapist who I saw twice a week. I joined eight 12-step groups, went to meetings in person and on the phone AROUND THE CLOCK, 7 days a week. I hired several top relationship and financial coaches from around the world and had powerful, weekly meetings with them, getting rid of blocks that used to hold me back for years within hours. I even had 2am emergency sessions with my international coaches at times when I was going through emotional turmoil and needed to work through it.
I drove to numerous churches and picked sound pastors to learn from them, having 3-hour meetings with the best ones on a weekly basis. I even went through an intense 9-hour deliverance to clear out any demons that might have been oppressing me and my family line. After this deliverance, I developed strong daily spiritual habits to stay spiritually fit and to win every spiritual battle from that day forward. Demons FEAR ME now.
My life shifted quickly. I found myself renting a gorgeous room in a million-dollar home in Northern California. Then, my amazing husband came into my life and married me in a month, after only 3 breathtaking dates. He loves me, adores me, spoils me, and makes my laugh hysterically! My toxic friends left my life and three powerful God-fearing Christian women became my closest friends. My little brother who stopped talking to me for 6 years became my best friend. And my once unpresent dad is now ultra supportive of my dreams and absolutely loves my husband. I ONLY have loving and supportive people in my life now. I am beyond blessed.
With the help of God, I cleaned up my past and started teaching Christian women how they can do the same: I watched them set powerful boundaries with courage to keep LOVE in and toxicity out too! I have since made a commitment to dedicate the rest of my professional life to helping other go-getter Christian women do whatever it takes to receive overwhelming love from God and loved ones beyond their wildest dreams.
Since then, I’ve worked with many private clients, spoken in front of countless groups and churches: I lived my dream of setting powerful boundaries fearlessly and experiencing out-of-this-world love through God, family, friends, and my husband; and I have created the 90 Days to Powerful Boundaries to Keep Loving People In and Toxic People Out Once and For All™ program, a series of 10 boundary-setting steps every go-getter Christian woman needs to KEEP EXTRAORDINARY LOVING, SUPPORTIVE PEOPLE IN and toxicity out, once and for all, in record time!
At this time, I gave my life to Jesus, which was a cause for huge celebration. However, many things in my life were worse than ever. I was completely drained from leaving my 10th toxic boyfriend, emotionally and financially.
He was a 40-year-old man living with his mom. I gave him all my money (actually, my mother’s money), supporting him with food, his gas, his truck insurance, and paying for all our dates. He was another narcissist, happy to drain every last ounce of energy from me.
How did I get with yet another boyfriend like this? I had read countless books and studied profusely on the topics of codependency, narcissism, love addiction, attachment styles, dating and attraction, healing from trauma. How did I miss the signs again? Embarrassed and broken, I found myself nearly homeless again at age 28, staying with hospitable friends.
A couple of years before finding myself homeless, I walked in on my sweet mother attempting suicide before my very eyes. She was rushed into ICU and died a few days later from her organs failing. To my surprise, she had left me a $12,000 inheritance. She never made much money as a hairdresser, and so I know she worked hard and barely scraped by to save this money for me.
But every penny of what she left me was gone. GONE, GONE, GONE. I had given all her money away to my undeserving boyfriends - what a way to dishonor her. This was the defining moment in my life that I shall NEVER EVER have poor boundaries again. I never wanted to get hurt by a man again. I never wanted to get hurt by people again. And I never wanted to get hurt financially ever again. I wanted to have a life FULL OF LOVE from God, family, friends, and my future husband. I was going to do WHATEVER IT TOOK to get this and nothing was going to stop me.
I became ENTIRELY OBSESSED with healing from my codependent and love addiction patterns, which I knew stemmed from my past of being molested and raped for 8 years by my stepfather (a serial pedophile) when I was a child. I was DETERMINED to stop my self-sabotaging behaviors and install new ones that would attract EXTRAORDINARY LOVE into my life, and that I did, with the help of God!
I interviewed over 50 therapists in Northern California, tested some out in person, and fired all of them, minus one. I kept the amazing Christian brainspotting therapist who I saw twice a week. I joined eight 12-step groups, went to meetings in person and on the phone AROUND THE CLOCK, 7 days a week. I hired several top relationship and financial coaches from around the world and had powerful, weekly meetings with them, getting rid of blocks that used to hold me back for years within hours. I even had 2am emergency sessions with my international coaches at times when I was going through emotional turmoil and needed to work through it.
I drove to numerous churches and picked sound pastors to learn from them, having 3-hour meetings with the best ones on a weekly basis. I even went through an intense 9-hour deliverance to clear out any demons that might have been oppressing me and my family line. After this deliverance, I developed strong daily spiritual habits to stay spiritually fit and to win every spiritual battle from that day forward. Demons FEAR ME now.
My life shifted quickly. I found myself renting a gorgeous room in a million-dollar home in Northern California. Then, my amazing husband came into my life and married me in a month, after only 3 breathtaking dates. He loves me, adores me, spoils me, and makes my laugh hysterically! My toxic friends left my life and three powerful God-fearing Christian women became my closest friends. My little brother who stopped talking to me for 6 years became my best friend. And my once unpresent dad is now ultra supportive of my dreams and absolutely loves my husband. I ONLY have loving and supportive people in my life now. I am beyond blessed.
With the help of God, I cleaned up my past and started teaching Christian women how they can do the same: I watched them set powerful boundaries with courage to keep LOVE in and toxicity out too! I have since made a commitment to dedicate the rest of my professional life to helping other go-getter Christian women do whatever it takes to receive overwhelming love from God and loved ones beyond their wildest dreams.
Since then, I’ve worked with many private clients, spoken in front of countless groups and churches: I lived my dream of setting powerful boundaries fearlessly and experiencing out-of-this-world love through God, family, friends, and my husband; and I have created the 90 Days to Powerful Boundaries to Keep Loving People In and Toxic People Out Once and For All™ program, a series of 10 boundary-setting steps every go-getter Christian woman needs to KEEP EXTRAORDINARY LOVING, SUPPORTIVE PEOPLE IN and toxicity out, once and for all, in record time!
Who are your clients?
I work with people just like you who are the iconic Proverbs 31 resourceful women who are successful and know how to support themselves, however, they have never been taught how to have powerful boundaries to ALWAYS keep extraordinary love in and keep toxicity out.
- Hard-working women (full-time job or business)
- Survivors of abuse (sexual, physical, emotional, spiritual and or financial)
- Women with codependent tendencies
- Women with additions (love, sex, etc)
- Survivors of trauma or PTSD
- Women with anxious attachment
- Women with anxious-avoidant attachment
- Women who attract toxic men repeatedly
- Women who are chronic people-pleasers
- Women who want only loving, supportive people in their lives, once and for all!
What makes you different from other Love and Boundary coaches?
Failing to find love was not an option for me. Without it, I was going to die. Overwhelming, out-of-this world love was the only thing that could heal me from the severe emotional, sexual, and financial abuse I went through. So I searched for it until I found it in Jesus. From that point forward, God showed me how to slay demons and implement powerful boundaries in a systematic way to keep love in and toxicity out! This is what makes me different from other “Love and Boundary Coaches.”
I’m concerned with how to get your relational boundaries INTUITIVE and STRONG - to help you STOP letting toxic people and toxic situations into your bubble and get you confident on setting and maintaining extraordinary boundaries ASAP.
I don’t beat around the bush or waste time. You may not like what I have to tell you – but you can be sure I will always tell you the truth with tough love. The truth about what’s standing in the way of you receiving extraordinary love from God and loved ones and how to get rid of that block FAST so you can start getting results in record time (and I throw in a healthy dose of ballet moves, juicing videos, and personal stories to inspire you, which always helps)!
I’m concerned with how to get your relational boundaries INTUITIVE and STRONG - to help you STOP letting toxic people and toxic situations into your bubble and get you confident on setting and maintaining extraordinary boundaries ASAP.
I don’t beat around the bush or waste time. You may not like what I have to tell you – but you can be sure I will always tell you the truth with tough love. The truth about what’s standing in the way of you receiving extraordinary love from God and loved ones and how to get rid of that block FAST so you can start getting results in record time (and I throw in a healthy dose of ballet moves, juicing videos, and personal stories to inspire you, which always helps)!
What type of personality do you work best with and what is expected of me?
The Boundaries for Boundless Love™ workshops, products and programs were created for people who are absolutely excited and dead serious about breaking out of their toxic cycle, breaking through resistance, receiving extraordinary love and ending what I call “oh no, not again syndrome” – it means not beating yourself up anymore saying: “Why am I attracting yet another toxic person/situation in my life???” They were created for you to put systems in place within a few months (sometimes weeks!), which will eventually lead you to gaining invaluable knowledge on different types of boundaries appropriate for different kinds of people, the confidence to implement powerful boundaries, and the amazing results from implementing such boundaries - boundless love from God and your healthy loved ones. That’s what I call AN EXTRAORDINARY LIFE.
Being a high achieving go-getter myself, I’m known to work best with other high achieving go-getters, people who are committed to their success no matter what, who are super-ready to get going and just want to know exactly what steps to take to implement Boundaries for Boundless Love™. My clients often tell me – “just tell me what to do and I’ll do it!” Consider what you’ll do with me to be a high-octane crash course on everything you need to know to have extraordinary boundaries to keep love in and toxicity out. You will be expected to take serious and consistent action. No excuses anymore, just a very different way of thinking and full support while you achieve this incredibly exciting goal: setting boundaries courageously and experiencing extraordinary love, consistently and in record time!
Being a high achieving go-getter myself, I’m known to work best with other high achieving go-getters, people who are committed to their success no matter what, who are super-ready to get going and just want to know exactly what steps to take to implement Boundaries for Boundless Love™. My clients often tell me – “just tell me what to do and I’ll do it!” Consider what you’ll do with me to be a high-octane crash course on everything you need to know to have extraordinary boundaries to keep love in and toxicity out. You will be expected to take serious and consistent action. No excuses anymore, just a very different way of thinking and full support while you achieve this incredibly exciting goal: setting boundaries courageously and experiencing extraordinary love, consistently and in record time!
What type of client will you not accept?
1) I do not work with women who make excuses.
2) I do no work with women who are still in "victim-mode"
3) I do not work with women who do not take 100% responsibility for what shows up in their life now as an adult.
4) I do not work with women who are not willing to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to believe in love again.
2) I do no work with women who are still in "victim-mode"
3) I do not work with women who do not take 100% responsibility for what shows up in their life now as an adult.
4) I do not work with women who are not willing to do WHATEVER IT TAKES to believe in love again.
What exactly is The Boundaries for Boundless Love™ system and what does it include?
Boundaries for Boundless Love™ system begins with understanding that your true value comes from being a rogal daughter of Our Most High King, Jesus Christ, understanding that God’s commandment to love others includes loving yourself too, setting powerful boundaries without shame or guilt to keep love in and toxicity out, and strengthening your receiving muscle so you can receive more and more love over time with joy and a feeling of safety.
Here’s what the System gets you to do:
Here’s what the System gets you to do:
Radical Spiritual Fitness & Cast Powerful Visions (in a Biblical Way)
We will begin with the most important step, the foundational step- to get right with God. “The Lord is far from the wicked, but He hears the prayers of the righteous” (Proverbs 15:29). Once you are right with God, then He will be able to hear and answer your prayers! “Therefore, I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours” (Mark 11:24). I will teach you all my secrets on how to stay spiritually fit and how to fight the daily spiritual battle successfully. Without being spiritually fit, you will never be able to receive Love abundantly. I will also teach you how to prepare your space and cast a vision in a powerful, God-pleasing way.
Assessment of Current Boundaries and Your Relationship Patterns
We will assess your current relationships and current boundaries. You can only experience Love fully when you are healthy and the people you are interacting with are healthy. You must distance yourself from unhealthy people and simply hold them with love and prayer from a distance. Before we can move forward to make changes in your life, we need to get an honest assessment of where you are at now in relation to others. We will arrive at an important realization that will help jumpstart you into the rest of the program!
Learn the Shocking Truth About Codependency and Narcissism
There is a plethora of information about Codependency and Narcissism out there, and when I used to study this information incessantly throughout my 20s, it didn’t seem to help because I continued to attract narcissistic people into my life despite all my newfound knowledge. However, after coming to Christ, God gave me a new perspective on Codependency and Narcissism that helped me to get me out of this crazy loop altogether. I will share with you biblical truths to help you get out this crazy cycle as well! Once you implement this, you will be able to protect yourself from toxic people once and for all. You will literally only have loving, supportive people in your life.
Learn the Shocking Truth of How Attraction Really Works
The only relationship that is completely different than all other relationships is the Romantic Relationship, which is based on attraction and polarization. Most women are clueless on how attraction works and are clueless on how differently men and women want to receive love. Most women want to have the man of their dreams one day, but they do everything wrong in the dating world and are unable to attract that man. And even if a woman gets lucky and ends up marrying a good man, many women do everything wrong in the marriage and end up pushing him away. I will teach you how to attract high quality men into your life (if dating) and how to reignite the love in your marriage (if married) and how it is all connected to God’s Word!
Best Friend Self-Talk
Do you talk to yourself like you are your own worst enemy or your own best friend? We will do an assessment to reveal your current beliefs about love and your self-worth. We will transform your depressing beliefs into empowering beliefs. You will have access to my personal list of my Holy Affirmations. I will teach you my powerful 5-column exercise that transforms lies into truths and helps you go from feeling depressed to empowered within MINUTES! With ample reprogramming, you will develop the habit of talking to yourself in a loving and supportive manner and become your own best friend with joy!
Radical Self-Care
You teach people how to treat you. So how do you treat yourself? We will assess where your self-care routine is currently and then we will develop a self-care routine that feels good to you. I will also share with you all the secrets of my personal self-care routine, which includes healthy eating, ballet stretches for beginners, self-massage, detoxing, and a skincare routine. I will teach you how to take care of your body, inside and out. You will eradicate guilt and shame for taking great care of yourself. Your self-worth will skyrocket in the name of Jesus and the types of people you will attract will dramatically change.
Reassess Boundaries & Learn Boundary-Communication
Now that you have high standards of how you treat yourself, you will never accept toxicity and drama from other people ever again. You will be a master of slaying demons in the name of Jesus. “Not today Satan!” We will reassess all the key relationships in your life, one by one, and decide what you will welcome from each person and what you will no longer tolerate. I will teach you how to communicate your feelings, needs, and requests in an appropriate way and give you powerful scripts. I will also teach you how to communicate in the world of romance to skyrocket attraction.
Set & Enforce New Boundaries
Here is where you set and enforce your new boundaries, which takes a lot of courage. Sometimes setting new boundaries will make people angry because people often do not like change. Other people will happily respect your new boundaries. I will teach you how to stay strong no matter how people react to you setting boundaries. We will adjust distance from key people in your life to keep love in and toxicity out. This takes tremendous strength, which you will get from God. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13). I will teach you how to enforce your new boundaries and readjust them appropriately as needed.
Expand Vision & Repeat Steps
When you witness my Boundaries for Boundless Love™ system working in your life, your confidence will soar and your vision will expand! I will teach you how to stay spiritually fit and how to upgrade your Holy Vision Boards regularly. You can absolutely receive more Love in your life! There is no limit to how much love you can receive! God promises you a spirit of Love, so trust Him! So there is no reason not to receive Love abundantly. You just have to train yourself to receive better, and this is what my system will help you with! Trust in the Lord! “For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7).
Welcome Extraordinary Love Into Your Life & Celebrate!
I will teach you how to track your Love Wins and celebrate yourself to increase your capacity to receive even more love into your life. You will feel SAFE and SECURE when receiving love and you will no longer sabotage love or run away from love anymore. You will feel DESERVING of love because you will realize you are clean and worthy in Jesus’ name! In addition to these 10 categories, you will learn COUNTLESS additional Boundaries for Boundless Love™ tips from your personal 1-to-1 coaching with me. These are the steps of the Boundaries for Boundless Love™ system I have created after working with many go-getter Christian women to keep extraordinary love in and toxicity out once and for all.
Does this really work?
Yes! The result of our work is an approach to shifting your mindset and your boundaries so that with time and consistency, you will be able to implement boundaries with confidence and welcome extraordinary love in and keep toxicity out once and for all! (See Testimonials)
What results can I expect?
Truly understand that everything in your life stems from what happens in the spirit realm first
- Become spiritually fit; become a spiritual warrior!
- Learn the truth of who you are according to God
Learn the promises of Love from God in the bible
Learn how to pray more effectively and discipline yourself to pray more
- Learn my personal Holy Affirmations and Love Affirmations that will change your life!
Learn how to apply different types of boundaries to different types of relationships
- Reprogram your idea of "boundaries" and realize it is not a bad word
Learn how to restore your relationship with God if your concepts of Him are distorted
- Learn how to do radical self-care like a Love Queen without any guilt
- Learn my secrets of my self-care routine
Feel and look younger! Increase your energy!
- Become your own best friend!
Learn the truth about codependency v. narcissism
Learn the truth about how attraction really works
Learn how to set boundaries with confidence and without guilt or shame
- Learn how to strengthen your receiving muscle and keep receiving more love!
Learn how to tap into your feelings to gauge immediately if something feels good to you or bad to you and whether or not you need to establish boundaries
- Learn a 5-column exercise that brings you from depressed to empowered within minutes!
- Enjoy an abundant life full of love!
Expand your vision regularly and get used to having more love in your life!
- Feel safe, secure and relaxed while receiving love!
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- Stop self-sabotaging and running away from love
Feel joyous while receiving love!
Feel secure in God’s love for you
- Stop being insecure, needy, desperate, clingy, passive-aggressive, and controlling
Repel toxic people naturally
Have ONLY loving, supportive people in your life
Restore your belief in love ALL THE WAY
Know who you are- a dearly loved daughter of God with an amazing purpose here on Earth!
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Confidence and energy to go for your dreams!
How is exactly is this 90-day coaching program structured?
9 POWERFUL 60-minute 1-on-1 sessions with me, your personal Boundaries For Boundless Love™ coach where you can ask me ANYTHING! These sessions will be recorded for you so you can have them forever.
POWERFUL, CUSTOMIZED Love Work (homework) to help you have the breakthroughs you need faster! You will SLAY demons in record time! When your mindset on Boundaries for Boundless Love™ is on point, you will be unstoppable!
Email correspondence with me for your burning questions, priority replies within 24 hours! You get priority over everyone else who is in contact with me.
How quickly can I expect results?
That depends on how quickly you can make those inner shifts. Some clients are ready to go and experience boundless love in a very short time frame, sometimes even a few weeks while others have a bit more work to do first. It also depends on how spiritually fit you are currently, if you take radical responsibility (or if you give your power to others), and how fearless you are to do things you’ve may have never done before (e.g., powerful boundary-setting and maintenance).
How can I guarantee myself that I will have Boundaries for Boundless Love, in record time?
Do all of your lovework. Be totally committed to your success. Understand that this is a process, a proven one, that works if you take action and implement all of the steps. All my clients who have diligently applied every step of The Boundaries for Boundless Love System have successfully attracted extraordinary love from God, self, and healthy loved ones, in much less time than they would have on their own AND have successfully put up boundaries to keep toxic people out!
BoYee, based on everything I’ve read and heard about you, I know you’re the one I want to learn from. What are my options for getting started with you?
Congratulations on making a decision for success! I’m happy to work with you to achieve your Boundaries for Boundless Love™ goals… The best way to work with me is this very 90-day Loving People In and Toxic People Out Forever™ Program.
OK, I’m ready to do this for myself, but I have a couple of additional questions. Can I contact you?
Good, sounds like you’re ready to be pulled into your future! Yes, if you have a couple of questions, just email me at boyee@ibelieveinloveagain.com, and I’ll be happy to walk you through the different options to see which one will be the very best for you. I can’t wait to see you succeed and am honored to be the one to help you. Let’s get going!
