How does one believe in love again after surviving child sexual abuse? Most survivors live most or the rest of their lives in BONDAGE. They are stuck in anger, shame, guilt, depression, self-pity, and hopelessness even AFTER the abuse stopped. This is such a pity because the blame and shame does not belong to the survivor. The blame and shame belongs to the perpetrator.
And so, if you have survived molestation yet you still live in world trapped by your fears and feelings of unworthiness, THEN YOU HAVE CONTINUED TO GIVE YOUR POWER AWAY TO YOUR PERPETRATOR.
If you continue to believe the lies that your perpetrator told you in order to brainwash you so that you would endure the abuse, THEN YOU HAVE CONTINUED TO GIVE YOUR POWER AWAY TO YOUR PERPETRATOR.
If you continue to live a life where you neglect your spiritual life, your physical health, your financial responsibilities, your relationships, THEN YOU HAVE CONTINUED TO GIVE YOUR POWER AWAY TO YOUR PERPETRATOR.
If you stopped believing that love and trust can be developed between you and other human beings, THEN YOU HAVE CONTINUED TO GIVE YOUR POWER AWAY TO YOUR PERPETRATOR.
IT IS TIME TO TAKE OUR POWER BACK NOW. And the BEST WAY to take our power back is to get our lives together and THRIVE! Remember, we do not need to do this by ourselves, and we are not supposed to! We can lean on God. He is there for us to lean on, and sometimes we will need to lean on Him hard!
When you hear that little voice that you won't be able to do it, that you might as well give up now, that you are worthless- know that this is coming from the devil!!! Laugh at that silly voice! You have God on your side. Never forget. You have come so far already. You have survived. Keep going, beautiful. This healing journey is not easy, but it is worth it.
God created YOU for a very special reason. You are here on this planet to do God's will in a special way that ONLY YOU can do, no one else. If you have forgotten this, read the Psalm below to remember how special you are, and that you must keep going and push yourself to thrive. Don't let your perpetrator stop you from being who you are supposed to be!!! Don't waste another second giving your power away to him/her/them.
Psalm 139 (NIV)
BoYee, YouTube Mentor for survivors and victims of child sexual abuse. She mostly uploads videos, but once in awhile, she enjoys expressing her thoughts through writing. Hence, the birth of this blog!