Don't CONTINUE TO give your power away to your perpetrator(S)!!!

How does one believe in love again after surviving child sexual abuse?  Most survivors live most or the rest of their lives in BONDAGE.  They are stuck in anger, shame, guilt, depression, self-pity, and hopelessness even AFTER the abuse stopped.  This is such a pity because the blame and shame does not belong to the survivor.  The blame and shame belongs to the perpetrator. 

And so, if you have survived molestation yet you still live in world trapped by your fears and feelings of unworthiness, THEN YOU HAVE CONTINUED TO GIVE YOUR POWER AWAY TO YOUR PERPETRATOR. 

If you continue to believe the lies that your perpetrator told you in order to brainwash you so that you would endure the abuse, THEN YOU HAVE CONTINUED TO GIVE YOUR POWER AWAY TO YOUR PERPETRATOR.

If you continue to live a life where you neglect your spiritual life, your physical health, your financial responsibilities, your relationships, THEN YOU HAVE CONTINUED TO GIVE YOUR POWER AWAY TO YOUR PERPETRATOR.

If you stopped believing that love and trust can be developed between you and other human beings, THEN YOU HAVE CONTINUED TO GIVE YOUR POWER AWAY TO YOUR PERPETRATOR.

IT IS TIME TO TAKE OUR POWER BACK NOW.  And the BEST WAY to take our power back is to get our lives together and THRIVE!  Remember, we do not need to do this by ourselves, and we are not supposed to!  We can lean on God.  He is there for us to lean on, and sometimes we will need to lean on Him hard!  

When you hear that little voice that you won't be able to do it, that you might as well give up now, that you are worthless- know that this is coming from the devil!!!  Laugh at that silly voice!  You have God on your side.  Never forget.  You have come so far already.  You have survived.  Keep going, beautiful.  This healing journey is not easy, but it is worth it.

God created YOU for a very special reason.  You are here on this planet to do God's will in a special way that ONLY YOU can do, no one else.  If you have forgotten this, read the Psalm below to remember how special you are, and that you must keep going and push yourself to thrive.  Don't let your perpetrator stop you from being who you are supposed to be!!!  Don't waste another second giving your power away to him/her/them.

Psalm 139 (NIV)
​For the director of music. Of David. A psalm.

1 You have searched me, Lord,
    and you know me.
2 You know when I sit and when I rise;
    you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3 You discern my going out and my lying down;
    you are familiar with all my ways.
4 Before a word is on my tongue
    you, Lord, know it completely.
5 You hem me in behind and before,
    and you lay your hand upon me.
6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
    too lofty for me to attain. 7 Where can I go from your Spirit?
    Where can I flee from your presence?
8 If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
    if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
9 If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
    if I settle on the far side of the sea,
10 even there your hand will guide me,
    your right hand will hold me fast.
11 If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me
    and the light become night around me,”
12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
    the night will shine like the day,
    for darkness is as light to you. 13 For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts,[a] God!
    How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
    they would outnumber the grains of sand--
    when I awake, I am still with you. 19 If only you, God, would slay the wicked!
    Away from me, you who are bloodthirsty!
20 They speak of you with evil intent;
    your adversaries misuse your name.
21 Do I not hate those who hate you, Lord,
    and abhor those who are in rebellion against you?
22 I have nothing but hatred for them;
    I count them my enemies.
23 Search me, God, and know my heart;
    test me and know my anxious thoughts.
24 See if there is any offensive way in me,
    and lead me in the way everlasting.