Praise & Testimonials
Due to the sensitive nature of my work, some Boundary-Setters choose to remain anonymous and I honor that.
I have to start by saying that BoYee gives lots of tough love, and at the same time, she is wonderful and pleasant to talk to. She is very personal and is very good about following up with people. BoYee has very high standards with the people she allows in her life, which gives me perspective on setting higher standards too. I love how she leads people to the Lord and she prays with people! She gives great expert perspective on looking at my situation from the outside in. She helps me to see things that are hard for me to see at first. For example, when I am afraid to leave a toxic person, she reminds me that that person will survive without me and that I am not their savior.
I used to have boundary-issues with my boyfriend, but now, I have learned to speak my truth. It used to be very difficult for me to be direct with men because I had this concept in my mind that "men are scary." But witnessing BoYee be VERY upfront and direct gives me permission to be direct now.
I see that being honest helps me to see what kind of response I will get from someone. I love it when my boyfriend and I dance back and forth in conversation now because this takes us into deeper conversation. BoYee is a great living example of someone who is comfortable with saying, "no." Because she can say it so powerfully, I have gotten much better at saying "no" as well.
I used to get triggered very easily and go down a dark tunnel of ruminating my interpretations of things that happened that upset me. But now, I've identified my triggers (I know I have six main triggers) and because I am aware of them now, I can deal with them. For example, when my boyfriend suggested that I should rest more and stop walking up and down the stairs so much, I became angry because I thought he was trying to "control me" like men have done before to me. However, I realized that he just wanted me to heal from a hip injury I've had for months. So in reality, he wasn't trying to control me. He was trying to help me recover because he loves me.
Since learning about boundaries, not only have I learned what I don't like, but I have also learned what I DO like. For example, I have learned that I am a shy Type A personality and I enjoy being productive most of the time. Some people are not like me, and that is okay. But I like to be productive and when I am not, I don't feel good.
I am so happy that I can communicate better with my boyfriend now. Good communication gets rid of fears, worries, and misinterpretations. I finally feel I am ABOVE THE STORM and I am excited about the future. I feel so much more peace and I am learning how to blend with my boyfriend in an honest relationship. I feel connected!
Thank you so much BoYee!
I used to have boundary-issues with my boyfriend, but now, I have learned to speak my truth. It used to be very difficult for me to be direct with men because I had this concept in my mind that "men are scary." But witnessing BoYee be VERY upfront and direct gives me permission to be direct now.
I see that being honest helps me to see what kind of response I will get from someone. I love it when my boyfriend and I dance back and forth in conversation now because this takes us into deeper conversation. BoYee is a great living example of someone who is comfortable with saying, "no." Because she can say it so powerfully, I have gotten much better at saying "no" as well.
I used to get triggered very easily and go down a dark tunnel of ruminating my interpretations of things that happened that upset me. But now, I've identified my triggers (I know I have six main triggers) and because I am aware of them now, I can deal with them. For example, when my boyfriend suggested that I should rest more and stop walking up and down the stairs so much, I became angry because I thought he was trying to "control me" like men have done before to me. However, I realized that he just wanted me to heal from a hip injury I've had for months. So in reality, he wasn't trying to control me. He was trying to help me recover because he loves me.
Since learning about boundaries, not only have I learned what I don't like, but I have also learned what I DO like. For example, I have learned that I am a shy Type A personality and I enjoy being productive most of the time. Some people are not like me, and that is okay. But I like to be productive and when I am not, I don't feel good.
I am so happy that I can communicate better with my boyfriend now. Good communication gets rid of fears, worries, and misinterpretations. I finally feel I am ABOVE THE STORM and I am excited about the future. I feel so much more peace and I am learning how to blend with my boyfriend in an honest relationship. I feel connected!
Thank you so much BoYee!
A Powerful Boundary-Setter!
I had many issues with boundaries with different categories of people in my life before working with BoYee. I have been working for myself in a business I have a huge passion for; however, I used to struggle with setting boundaries with my clients. I was quite "loose" with them in terms of making sure that they paid their invoices. I would allow them to influence me on how they could pay and when they could pay. I no longer allow this sort of behavior from my clients. I tell them directly now that payment is due. I am firm and polite at the same time.
I used to have a lot of trouble setting boundaries with my sister… well, to be honest, I never really set any boundaries with her at all until working with BoYee. I realized it is okay to choose not to engage with my sister at this time. If her behavior improves and is better consistently, then I can revisit changing my boundaries. But for now, I see it is healthy for me to keep more distance.
I learned that by not engaging with toxic people, I am sending a message that their behavior is not okay. I don't give other people my power anymore. Physical abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, any kind of abuse, is NOT OKAY. I realized that engaging with toxic people is like giving a piece of my energy to them, little by little, until I have no more energy left.
I used to let people walk all over me, but now I am able to stand up for myself when something isn’t right or just. It can stand up for myself towards a stranger, a family member, anyone!
I see that as long as I am aware of my boundaries and the situation, I can grow from this place. I learned it is important to be proactive in putting my foot down and not let people cross my boundaries. It is imperative for me to maintain my boundaries long-term! Getting boundaries down is not an overnight process… it is a process! But it is possible.
I learned it is important to verbalize my boundaries with some people because people are not mind-readers. I am allowed to create my own personal rules.
I now have peace in my life! Things aren't so crazy and dramatic anymore. I feel so much happier overall. Also, it feels good to have the self-satisfaction to know that setting boundaries is the right thing to do.
I used to have a lot of trouble setting boundaries with my sister… well, to be honest, I never really set any boundaries with her at all until working with BoYee. I realized it is okay to choose not to engage with my sister at this time. If her behavior improves and is better consistently, then I can revisit changing my boundaries. But for now, I see it is healthy for me to keep more distance.
I learned that by not engaging with toxic people, I am sending a message that their behavior is not okay. I don't give other people my power anymore. Physical abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, any kind of abuse, is NOT OKAY. I realized that engaging with toxic people is like giving a piece of my energy to them, little by little, until I have no more energy left.
I used to let people walk all over me, but now I am able to stand up for myself when something isn’t right or just. It can stand up for myself towards a stranger, a family member, anyone!
I see that as long as I am aware of my boundaries and the situation, I can grow from this place. I learned it is important to be proactive in putting my foot down and not let people cross my boundaries. It is imperative for me to maintain my boundaries long-term! Getting boundaries down is not an overnight process… it is a process! But it is possible.
I learned it is important to verbalize my boundaries with some people because people are not mind-readers. I am allowed to create my own personal rules.
I now have peace in my life! Things aren't so crazy and dramatic anymore. I feel so much happier overall. Also, it feels good to have the self-satisfaction to know that setting boundaries is the right thing to do.
A Powerful Boundary-Setter!
I am a senior woman who went through a lot of emotional turmoil in my childhood and adult life. There was quite a bit of dysfunction in my family growing up. Before working with BoYee, I used to have constant problems with random toxic people in my day-to-day life. I never had peace in the grocery store. It seemed like every time I went to pay for my groceries at the checkout station, people would agitated and grunt loudly for me to hear. There were a few times where people would even hit me with their carts. I couldn't even walk my dogs in peace. Old people at the dog park would start yelling insults at me and accuse me of not properly taking care of my dogs. People at the laundry mat would get nasty with me too. There was someone there who did racist geisha girl impression of me to make fun of me, and I am not even Japanese.
After working with BoYee, I have stopped engaging with mentally ill people. I used to think that they had a rational mind and therefore go back and forth with them. But now, I realize I cannot help them anymore. I feel more empathetic towards cops now because they have to deal with all sorts of people everyday. I am VERY aware of boundaries now. I identify my boundaries and set boundaries now, instead of getting angry. I don't feel comfortable driving during traffic hour (because I was in a major car accident) so I have set boundaries with my friends. I refuse to drive when it is busy on the road or when it is too dark outside. Also, I am very aware of drivers with road rage. I used to have major issues with them, but now I realize it is their problem if they have rage.
BoYee has helped me immensely with my relationships. Recently, the man I used to talk to called me this week to see if I needed toilet paper. I was surprised that he called me because I pushed him away in the past because of my fear of losing control in love. But he must sense how open I am now and not judgmental like I used to be. At Raleys the other day, I let someone go ahead of me. I then went to order fried rice and that same lady was behind me and exclaimed to the clerk, "Give her the biggest size and I will pay for it!" I started to go to church again (before the quarantine hit) and I really enjoyed being around spiritual people. They were good examples to me., working on inner purification. They related to God instead of the ego. I also enjoyed getting to know the pastor.
I notice I have more compassion and empathy for my friends now when they are in trouble. And people are kinder to me as well. I had locked myself out of my car and a neighbor of mine helped to unlock my car with a hanger - she was a God send! I have another neighbor who helps me lift heavy things! I feel blessed to have such good-hearted neighbors now. This is a huge change for me. In my past, my neighbors used to give me dirt looks, gossip, play loud music, leave sheet-rock on my driveway, and hose down my home to irritate me. I don't have any of those problems anymore.
I am so happy because I finally have PEACE in my life now. I used to be stressed out and angry. But now, I know I can go home, kick back, and relax. I have more motivation to work-out, go to the library, and socialize. Thank you BoYee for your amazing coaching!
After working with BoYee, I have stopped engaging with mentally ill people. I used to think that they had a rational mind and therefore go back and forth with them. But now, I realize I cannot help them anymore. I feel more empathetic towards cops now because they have to deal with all sorts of people everyday. I am VERY aware of boundaries now. I identify my boundaries and set boundaries now, instead of getting angry. I don't feel comfortable driving during traffic hour (because I was in a major car accident) so I have set boundaries with my friends. I refuse to drive when it is busy on the road or when it is too dark outside. Also, I am very aware of drivers with road rage. I used to have major issues with them, but now I realize it is their problem if they have rage.
BoYee has helped me immensely with my relationships. Recently, the man I used to talk to called me this week to see if I needed toilet paper. I was surprised that he called me because I pushed him away in the past because of my fear of losing control in love. But he must sense how open I am now and not judgmental like I used to be. At Raleys the other day, I let someone go ahead of me. I then went to order fried rice and that same lady was behind me and exclaimed to the clerk, "Give her the biggest size and I will pay for it!" I started to go to church again (before the quarantine hit) and I really enjoyed being around spiritual people. They were good examples to me., working on inner purification. They related to God instead of the ego. I also enjoyed getting to know the pastor.
I notice I have more compassion and empathy for my friends now when they are in trouble. And people are kinder to me as well. I had locked myself out of my car and a neighbor of mine helped to unlock my car with a hanger - she was a God send! I have another neighbor who helps me lift heavy things! I feel blessed to have such good-hearted neighbors now. This is a huge change for me. In my past, my neighbors used to give me dirt looks, gossip, play loud music, leave sheet-rock on my driveway, and hose down my home to irritate me. I don't have any of those problems anymore.
I am so happy because I finally have PEACE in my life now. I used to be stressed out and angry. But now, I know I can go home, kick back, and relax. I have more motivation to work-out, go to the library, and socialize. Thank you BoYee for your amazing coaching!
A Powerful Boundary-Setter!
I reached out to BoYee because I was facing relationship confusion and indirect sexual trauma (hearing about it.) I have also been exploring some of the things BoYee shares about such as codependency and boundaries, and I thought of asking her for some help. I generally felt confused – trapped – and unsure how to proceed.
When I tried to prepare my thoughts for my coaching with BoYee, it was hard for me to figure out exactly what help I was looking for. What surprised me is how quickly BoYee cut through my confused and helped me get to the root of what was bothering me: the quality of my relationships. BoYee helped me talk about my experiences and realize where my needs were not connecting with my relationships. She helped me decide to become more clear about what my needs and qualities I am interested in having in a long-term relationship choice/decision in partner and inspired me to clarify my non-negotiables, “would be nice’s, and the values I am choosing in a relationship. She told me that boundaries can help me make relationship decisions that guarantee the type of relationship that fits with my needs.
The benefits I received after talking to BoYee were increased clarity. I also felt more self-confident that I clarified my needs and how I would proceed with a relationship. I also benefited by gaining a new understanding of my boundaries and feel encouraged to practice them in a way that works for me. I still am open to certain people in my life, but I have more clarity that I can make stronger boundary decisions in anyway I need to ensure healthy relationships and environments in my life.
When I tried to prepare my thoughts for my coaching with BoYee, it was hard for me to figure out exactly what help I was looking for. What surprised me is how quickly BoYee cut through my confused and helped me get to the root of what was bothering me: the quality of my relationships. BoYee helped me talk about my experiences and realize where my needs were not connecting with my relationships. She helped me decide to become more clear about what my needs and qualities I am interested in having in a long-term relationship choice/decision in partner and inspired me to clarify my non-negotiables, “would be nice’s, and the values I am choosing in a relationship. She told me that boundaries can help me make relationship decisions that guarantee the type of relationship that fits with my needs.
The benefits I received after talking to BoYee were increased clarity. I also felt more self-confident that I clarified my needs and how I would proceed with a relationship. I also benefited by gaining a new understanding of my boundaries and feel encouraged to practice them in a way that works for me. I still am open to certain people in my life, but I have more clarity that I can make stronger boundary decisions in anyway I need to ensure healthy relationships and environments in my life.
A Powerful Boundary-Setter!
Before coaching with BoYee, I suffered from a lot of bullying my whole life, from strangers mostly. They would make fun of my outfits and my body type for no reason. My biggest wish was to stand up for myself and tell these bullies what was on my mind, but I couldn't. I would keep it inside because I feared I would make them upset or angry. I felt that everyone hated me for no reason. I also lacked physical strength. I had never worked out or stretched in my life before coaching with BoYee. All I wanted was to be able to defend myself. I no longer wanted anyone to threaten my life ever again.
BoYee helped me to become strong and confident, emotionally and physically. She gave me many tools, videos, Holy affirmations, and powerful prayers to help me to transform. Being that she is a skilled dancer, she helped me with strengthening my core, arms, legs, back, everything! I though I was already flexible before working with her, but she helped to increase my flexibility too! She taught me how to have aligned, confident posture, which boosted my confidence. She even fixed the way I walk! I used to walk with low confidence, but now I walk with my shoulders back and head up! I love myself 100% now!
I used to become tired from saying, "yes" all the time. I was the YES WOMAN, and this was exhausting to keep up with. I learned not be afraid to say "no" because it’s okay to have my own choice to do something or not to do something. Just because someone is friend doesn’t mean we have to have all the same interests. Saying no is a good filter (it filters out toxic people).
I am enjoying life with a smile on my face now! I am happy! I feel Free! I know no one will ever harm me again because I have God watching over me. I am God's child.
BoYee helped me to become strong and confident, emotionally and physically. She gave me many tools, videos, Holy affirmations, and powerful prayers to help me to transform. Being that she is a skilled dancer, she helped me with strengthening my core, arms, legs, back, everything! I though I was already flexible before working with her, but she helped to increase my flexibility too! She taught me how to have aligned, confident posture, which boosted my confidence. She even fixed the way I walk! I used to walk with low confidence, but now I walk with my shoulders back and head up! I love myself 100% now!
I used to become tired from saying, "yes" all the time. I was the YES WOMAN, and this was exhausting to keep up with. I learned not be afraid to say "no" because it’s okay to have my own choice to do something or not to do something. Just because someone is friend doesn’t mean we have to have all the same interests. Saying no is a good filter (it filters out toxic people).
I am enjoying life with a smile on my face now! I am happy! I feel Free! I know no one will ever harm me again because I have God watching over me. I am God's child.
A Powerful Boundary-Setter!
Hi my name is Mia. I came across the channel of I Believe in Love Again while researching information on YouTube for Child Sexual abuse. The first video I was watching helped me so much. It was Common Behaviors of Child sexual abuse. I was trying to understand myself as a Survivor and how I could get healing and help. As being open to talk about the Abuse with others was not possible or easy. One of the First things I discovered while working with Boyee is how my mindset was needing a Renewing and Transformation. And it most certainly has taken place. One of the amazing things that has taken place in my Life is the Realisation the shame was not mine. I was not to blame. For so many years I had taken on Unhealthy copying skills and needed to make and learn new health ones and Boyee's Mentorship program helped me realise it. With Boyee as my mentor and friend I felt at Liberty. Our stories are different but one thing that we can all relate to is experiencing hurt and pain. Being able to have someone who would not judge and redicule me but rather support me and lead me closer to my Saviour im truely grateful for. Many changes has taken place in me from now knowing my self worth to how I carry myself. Im no more the girl having my head always looking to the ground and being hopeless and having a low self esteem. I am discovering who I am. A daughter of the King.Beautiful,talented and gifted. No more a victum for easy prey. Ive started succeeding in areas of my Life I would never have Dreamed were possible if it were not for Boyee's Mentorship program. Boyee gave me very useful tools that equipped me to handle my personal struggles. My faith has been restored to believe in love again. Though evil had its way.I see how God chose to use our tragedy for testimony and Boyee is Living proof that if God can do it for her he can do it for anyone. I still have a long way to go on the journey of Healing. My experience with Boyee has been empowering, transforming and Life changing. I definitely encourage and recommend all to join today to experience love and healing in the most Amazing way possible.
Mia W., A Powerful Boundary-Setter!
You're a real Inspiration to me, BoYee. You helped me Believe anything is possible no matter the bad that has happened to us. And to follow one's Dreams and Believe in Love again. Also this year learned to love myself more, before I hated myself and thought I was a mistake but no more. I'm destined for Great Things and here for a reason and purpose. Reason is so logical in this sinful world reason is not the answer always, but Purpose is so much more.
A Powerful Boundary-Setter!
Hello. My name is Isaac and I recommend BoYee as a mentor. She does a great Job as a mentor. She is a great listener and she is honest and transparent when it comes to sharing her life struggles and sharing some of the strategies she used in her life to change her situation. I learned so much about her and from her. She was very helpful in explaining the reasons to why I was struggling and she also gave me advice to how I should challenge myself and take responsibility in order to better my life. I felt that she could be trusted because of her difficult experiences in life and she understands the reality of what its like to be taken advantage of and what its like to be in abusive relationships and she has great Ideas which I believe she used herself to get out of her circumstances. I really recommend her and I am sure that most people love working with her.
Isaac K., A Powerful Boundary-Setter!
I’ve followed Boyee’s channel for at least eighteen months or more. Her channel includes important material for those who have survived incest or sexual trauma/abuse. Though I’ve been exceedingly fortunate to not have personally experienced that I have known close friends who have. Listening to Boyee’s content has provided crucial context and perspective so that I’m able to better support and help heal those who have been personally impacted by childhood sexual trauma. Here’s hoping that she is able to continue to assist and be an advocate online for many years for those currently being victimized or traumatically impacted via childhood traumas.
Bruce, advocate for survivors
BoYee, you are an amazing young woman! And you are helping so many countless people out here in the world to be as brave as you have been throughout your life & then to move on ahead & share your story after it all, that's just both heartfelt & beautiful! You should applaud yourself! I realize it's not been easy for you to begin telling your story but the fact that you are so strong through it all & are moving ahead to healing & happiness, it's just truly amazing to see! I am truly so sorry to hear about your mother's untimely death, I really am & honey, I can relate to losing someone who has taken their own life. My husband passed away after taking his life 2 years ago & you never just get over it, it's always there in the back of your mind all the time, you just get adjusted & used to what happened & learn to deal with it one day at a time. My husband was tragically molested by a family "friend" for several years when he was very young also. It's a horrible & he was very brave to tell me about his story & he has told psychologists over the years he was with me. Sadly, he had mental health issues that killed him in the end, I am sure being molested was a part of it. My story is I was date raped by a monster at the age of 16 & I was still a very naive 16 year old girl who still was definitely not ready at all to have sex (still a virgin) & he took advantage of me & wouldn't stop no matter what I did. Anyway hun, as I've said before on another video of yours, I have subscribed to your channel & will continue to watch the other ones you have. You are an awesome woman & nothing can keep you down, that is plain for me to see! God bless you & I wish you continued bliss in your life! Take care girl, you rock!
Lori L.
You are a daughter of the King Most High! That makes you a real princess. Thank you for sharing your story. I am a survivor as well. My perp was my father and I really have no idea when it started but just seemed to be all through my childhood up until 19. I finally told my older sister. Because I had no healing, I dated only abusive men and consequently found the most abusive man to marry and recently divorced after 27 years! I have been working on my healing for a long time. I just wanted you to know that it is soooo critical to only date men that respect you on every level. Stay away from narcissists! I am and was a narcissist magnet! You are young, beautiful, intelligent woman and have a wonderful personality. As they say, the world is your oyster! Love you!
Jorge P.
This made me break down in tears. You've gone through so much and you've managed to build yourself back up to a point where you are able to share your story. Such an inspiration. Absolute queen
Jacqueline M.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It has taken me over 20 years to realize that I need to do some healing on myself because the rape and molestation I experienced as a child. Your bravery is inspiring. Peace and love
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