My services well-defined:

As a Life Coach...

​WHAT I DO
  • Exchange my services for a specific amount of MONEY outlined in the client contract.
  • I give weekly 1-on-1 calls to my private clients
  • I give 2 text Question days per week in regards to IBILA
  • For ALL clients, they can text me daily to let me know they are doing their Lovework. 
  • For ALL clients, they can send Praise reports ANYTIME!!!
  • I listen with the intention of "How can I help them MOVE out of this current block AS FAST AS POSSIBLE with tough love, tools, techniques, ANYTHING!"
  • When "lies from Satan", triggers, limiting beliefs, blocks pop up, then lead them through a TOOL to convert those IMMEDIATELY into empowering Bible-truth thoughts!!!
  • I teach ANY tool and technique (that is NOT 12-step)
  • Examples: EFT, 5-column, box breathing, how to write in planner, how to make a vision board
  • I teach all things Feminine Energy!!!!!!!
  • I teach all things Relationship Rehab through "leaning back" in Feminine Energy!!!
  • I teach how to create Masculine container!!!
  • I teach my clients HOW TO SET AND ENFORCE BOUNDARIES STEP BY STEP!!
  • I teach Boundary-simulation EXERCISES where we role-play difficult situations they might experience in real life so they develop the confidence to set and enforce that boundary in REAL LIFE when a similar situation comes up.
  • I help clients to work through triggers, remove blocks, upgrade limiting beliefs through ANY technique I wish to use (that is NOT 12-step)
  • I let my clients know when I have IBILA events and retreats coming up that they can invest in
  • I let my clients know when I have IBILA digital programs released, books released, etc that they can invest in.
  • If I see my client can definitely benefit from being in 12-step groups, I give her a LIST of groups with some bullet points below each group (from SIA to CODA to UA and DA and SA etc... ) pros and cons of SIA and SLAA and RA, etc... things they should know (AND THIS IS ALL I DO!!!).  She does NOT ever need to tell me if she ever tries out or joins any group because these are ANONYMOUS!! She can tell me if she freely wishes.  add note: if we ever happen to see each other in the same 12-step group, we can totally say hi!  we are sisters in those groups! we always protect each other's anonymity! woohoo!  (AFTER handing her this list, I do not mention 12-step groups again... if she has questions though, I am happy to answer!)

WHAT I DON'T DO
  • After giving my client the 12-step HANDOUT once, I do NOT ask my clients if they have joined any 12-step groups and "how are you doing with their sobriety?" because if they did join, THEY JOINED ANONYMOUSLY!!!!  THIS IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS!
As a 12-Step Peer (when my mentee becomes my peer..)

WHAT I DO

WHAT I DON'T DO 
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As a 12-Step Peer...

WHAT I DO
  • Exchange my services FREE OF CHARGE.
  • I listen with the intention of "I will be a listening ear and nothing more."
  • I exchange texts and calls with "healthy peers" when I have the energy, space, and time for it.

WHAT I DON'T DO (because she could become my sponsee possibly in the future... you NEVER KNOW!!)
  • I do NOT communicate with peers who might trigger me.  I limit or cut off communication with them (with love).
  • I do NOT discuss my IBILA coaching business practice with my sponsee.  I DO NOT EVEN LET HER KNOW that this is what I do for a living.  If she asks what I do for a living, I tell her, "Gosh, I do so many different things.  Right now my focus is in ecommerce and self-development."  If she finds out specifically what I do, she finds out, but not from me!
As a 12-Step Sponsor...
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WHAT I DO
  • Exchange my services FREE OF CHARGE.
  • I give weekly 1-on-1 calls to my sponsees
  • They can text me daily on their Stepwork and also any tough situations they are going through.  When they have a tough situation, I can respond with 12-step literature!!!!! YESSS!!!!
  • I listen with the intention of "Are they working the 12-steps according to the program?" 
  • If they ask me questions that do NOT pertain to the 12-steps and how to work the program to stay sober, then I reply with, "I am sorry, this is outside my scope as your 12-step sponsor.  I am happy to answer questions pertaining to this 12-step program."
  • When their character defects pop up, gently point them out to them AND GUIDE THEM BACK TO THE STEPS, THE LITERATURE, STEP PRAYERS.
  • I guide my sponsees through each of the 12 steps
  • I answer my sponsees' questions about the 12 Steps, 12 Traditions, and 12 Concepts, and other program questions
  • I support my sponsees when they give their 1st step giveaway.
  • I let my sponsees know when there are 12-step events and workshops coming up (FREE or PAID EVENTS that support that particular 12-step group)
  • I give assistance to my sponsee when they have questions on how to sponsor their sponsees.


WHAT I DON'T DO
  • I do NOT teach sponsees HOW TO SET AND ENFORCE BOUNDARIES STEP BY STEP... I can tell them what I have ELIMINATED from my life in order to have sobriety though (which is boundary-setting)
  • I do NOT discuss my IBILA coaching business practice with my sponsee.  I DO NOT EVEN LET HER KNOW that this is what I do for a living.  If she asks what I do for a living, I tell her, "Gosh, I do so many different things.  Right now my focus is in ecommerce and self-development."  If she finds out specifically what I do, she finds out, but not from me!
  • I do NOT promote or advertise my IBILA services or products to my sponsee.
  • I do NOT teach my sponsee ANY IBILA tools or techniques
  • I do NOT teach my sponsee "leaning back" feminine energy